Thursday, December 31, 2015

2015 - a really bad year

January:  Margaret's Bobby hospitalized with Stage 4 heart and liver disease. 

February: Bobby sent home with Hospice care. John diagnosed with lung cancer. 

March: John started chemo and radiation. 

April:  Stated getting work done on house - rebuild part of deck, painting, etc. Cancelled our trip to Ireland. 

May: Nothing special on the calendar, except doctors' appointments. 

June:  John got to row a couple of times. Beach week started at the end of the month. 

July:  Beach week.  Bobby fell and broke his hip. John was told his lung cancer in remission. A lone shooter kills five service men in Chattanooga at a recruiting center and Naval/Marine Center. Jean found out she was going to be laid off the end of September. 

August: We traveled to spend two weeks in the Canadian Rockies with Ann and Al.  John's lungs basically shut down.  My dear one died 30 August, with me, Ann, Al, and Sue with him. 

September: Alison came home with me.  She and Margaret got me started on the new journey of my life. 

October: I moved to The Terrace, an independent-living apartment. The girls and grandchildren continued to move things out of the house. 
November:  Bobby continued to worsen and died on 6 November.  Thanksgiving wasn't much fun this year. 

December:  I somehow wound up with a broken bone in my foot.  Fortunately I only had to wear a boot for about three weeks.  The house was listed for sale, and we are actually working on contract negotiations with a potential buyer.  Margaret took me to Sue and Randy's for Christmas and then to Jesse's for a few days.

2015 was characterized by awful health issues and deaths.  The weather was terrible all year long, all over the country.  Disturbed people with guns destroyed lives - their own and many others - all over the world.  Too many crazy people ran for the Republican nomination for President. 

But there were spectacularly good things - mostly the love and caring of our family and friends.  None of us could have made it through without them.  Sue, Margaret, Kate, and Jean are my rocks, and they continue to keep me going. 

We managed to get through this damnable year.  And we can only hope for better things in 2016.

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

There's no place like home...

We left Elizabeth City about 6:30 this morning and got to my apartment about 6:30 this evening.  Margaret drove the whole way, mostly in the rain.  We finally saw the sun as we turned onto I-75 west of Knoxville. It was a good week - a good time for both of us to be away from home, with family, doing other things.  We got to see Sue and Randy and four of the six grandchildren and their spouse/fiancee/significant others - always special.  We had unseasonably warm weather most of the time, but the temperatures were falling as we headed home.  It's good to be home.

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Last day in NC

The temps here in NC today were in the mid70s.  We sat out on the back patio this afternoon, just to enjoy the lovely weather.  It's supposed to cool off again tomorrow.  But Margaret and I are heading home first thing in the morning.  It'll be a long day of driving - and we just hope for uneventful. 

Monday, December 28, 2015

From Elizabeth City

We're still at Jesse's.  The plan is to head for home on Wednesday.  It's a 10-hour drive, so we may not make it in one day.  We shall see.  The temperatures here have been crazy - mid70s yesterday, mid50s today, and predicted to be near 80 tomorrow.  At least we haven't had the awful floods/tornadoes/blizzards as the rest of the country.  I hope all are safe.

Saturday, December 26, 2015

Sunday Stealing

The 2015 Year End Meme
From the archives!

1. What did you do in 2015 that you’d never done before?
See my husband and son-in-law die.
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't make new year's resolutions.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
We just had deaths this year.
4. Tell us a valuable lesson you learned in 2015?
Check and recheck to be sure all your affairs are in dying order.
5. What was your favorite new TV program?
I didn't see any of the new TV programs this year.
6. What would you like to have in 2016 that you lacked in 2015?
Weddings, births, and other happy events instead of deaths.
7. What dates from 2015 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
30 August, the date John died; 6 November, the date Bobby died.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
9. What was your biggest failure?
Losing loved ones.
10. What was the best thing you bought?
Time at the beach
11. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Our wonderful daughters, sons-in-laws, and grandchildren, John's sister and brother-in-law
12. Whose behavior made you appalled and disgusted?
Candidates for the Republication presidential nomination.
13. What song will always remind you of 2015?
I can't think of one.
14. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Told everyone how much I loved and appreciated them.
15. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Dealt with death
16. What was the best book you read?
Not much reading happened this year.
17. What one thing would have made your year measurably more satisfying?
Obviously, not to have lost John and Bobby.
18.  Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
I can't think of a lyric, either.

Friday, December 25, 2015


I hope your holiday time has been safe and happy.

There's been a lot of rain here, but nothing like back home in Chattanooga.  One road has been completely washed out - about 6 feet of roadway gone, and many others flooded.  I'm glad my house and the apartment are on hills.

Our Christmas has been a quiet but lovely day with Margaret, Sue & Randy, Alison & Joe, and Sarah & Carson (plus the three noisy dogs).  Our Christmas "dinner" was a Margaret-cooked breakfast/brunch complete with biscuits and gravy.  Lots of love in the building.

On to Jesse's in the morning.

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

To continue with the metaphor...

We're off to see the Wizard.

Well, maybe not the Wizard, but Margaret and I are going to see Matt & Claire, Sue and her family, and Jesse & Caroline.  The plan is for Margaret to pick me up early in the morning, and we'll head off on The Yellow Brick Road (or maybe just I-75).  Stay tuned.

Tuesday, December 22, 2015

To paraphrase...

Ding, dong!  The boot is gone!
The clunky boot is gone!
The break is healing,
New bone growing.
Ding, dong! The nasty boot is gone!

Monday, December 21, 2015

Monday strikes again

We've had the warm temperatures here (going to be in the 70s by Xmas Day), but lots of rain along with it.  As usual, today was my busy day, but I got a lot done.Including a much-needed haircut. I took keys by the realtor's office, then cashed a Medicare reimbursement check.  So-so cards at bridge - I had one or two fairly good hands, but lots more yucky ones. It was good to get home, get some supper, and get into soft clothes.

 I'll be glad to see the orthopedist tomorrow - and hope to get rid of this boot. Think good orthopedic thoughts!

Saturday, December 19, 2015


A Saturday spent at home.  Computer time and knitting and NCIS filled most of the day.  But I actually accomplished a little something else - getting some of the piles of paper on the desk organized.  I'm hoping for another exciting day tomorrow, too.

Friday, December 18, 2015

Five things Friday

1. It got cold overnight.  I had to scrape my windshield this morning - haven't done that in 30 years.  I didn't even have a scraper, but found a CD case in the car to use.
2. We had a wonderful brunch with our wonderful swimmers at Betty's wonderfully decorated house.
3.  I made a trip to Walmart (and forgot to get an ice scraper).
4.  It was a nice quiet afternoon at home.
5.  I had a special Chinese dinner with Missy, John, Renna, Judy S. - always a treat!

Thursday, December 17, 2015

Quiet Thursday

The big excitement today was doing my laundry, for the first time using the laundry facilities here.  I must have found good time and day.

I was sent some wonderful flowers, fruit, and candy - thanks, dear friends.

All in all, a nice uneventful day.

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

I'm amazed

Jean picked up the washer and dryer today.  And the glass company people came and replaced the stained glass window. Plus, two more people looked at the house today.

However, this morning the realtor had an offer on the house.  This afternoon, the realtor made a counter-offer, and by 10 this evening, the counter-offer had been accepted.  Then she said that we had gotten "through the first of three loops" and we'd see what came next.

Stay tuned.

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

A better day

Today was much better.  At least I think I was a bit smarter.  The only thing scheduled "out" was my manicure/pedicure.  Nothing like some pampering! 

The house is official listed on MLS, and there has already been somebody looking at it.  Plus there's another appointment for tomorrow.  Jean is coming in tomorrow to get the stained glass window out of the house, and pick up the washer and dryer. 

And, for the first time in a week, I spent all night in the bed, with no intervals in the recliner.  Maybe this cold IS finally on the way out.

Monday, December 14, 2015

Monday overdone

I really overdid it today.  It was basically my first day back in the "real world", and I tried to do what I would usually do (except for going swimming).  Not the smartest move I've ever made.  I went to coffee, to Walmart, got some lunch, and then went to play bridge.  I had awful cards, and mis-bid the few biddable hands I had.  I was able to leave a little early.  We had one too many again, and when I started to crash, I left at a break.

When I got home, I immediately changed into soft clothes, and didn't even go back up to dinner.  Fortunately Margaret had brought me some soup yesterday, and I just ate some of that.  All I have on for tomorrow is my mani/pedi, and I'll definitely not plan anything else for the rest of the week.

The guy who was cleaning out the house finished up today, so the realtor will be getting it actually on the market.  When there's something put on line, I'll pass along the link.

Sunday, December 13, 2015

Sunday Stealing

Why Do You Want To Know That Meme, part two 

Stolen from: Love me some surveys

25. List 3 activities that you can only enjoy by yourself.
Reading, sleeping
26. If you could live in any biome* (and survive) which biome would you live in? (*a large naturally occurring community of flora and fauna occupying a major habitat, e.g., forest or tundra.)
Near water, preferably salt water
27. How do you like being roused in the morning?
Waking up naturally
28. How was your day? What did you do?
Watched Margaret work, putting together a floor lamp and some shelves; then took her to dinner.
29. What did your last text message say?

Two emoticons to Margaret after she told me was home safely
30. Do you respond to texts quickly?

Fairly quickly.

31. Who was the last person you called?

The concierge to order my lunch yesterday.

32. List 5 things that are on your wish list.

Good things for my family, the disappearance of Donald Trump, that people could celebrate "other-ness", the disappearance of terrorists, (dare I say it?) world peace.

33. If you were famous, what do you think you would be famous for?

Would never happen

34. Winter or summer?


35. What is a quality that all people should have?

I have to list two - tolerance and a sense of humor.

36. If you could have a large collection of one item, what would that item be?

I'm never going to collect anything again.

37. What have you been thinking about lately?

The cold I had last week; selling my house

38. What is the secret to a happy life?

Living within your means; a sense of humor

39. What are some phrases you say often?

"It is what it is!"  "Shit!"

40. Favorite food?

Seafood - crabs and shrimp

41. What is your wish for the world?

Respect and tolerance for "other-ness".

42. What are some of your greatest fears?

That Donald Trump might, by some fluke, become president.

43. What is the last thing you downloaded onto your computer?

A form from my attorney

44. Most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen (in real life)?

I've seen so many beautiful things that I could never pick just one.

45. Spicy food: Like or dislike?

Love it - but not too hot.

46. Scary movies: Like or dislike?

Not my favorite genre

47. Do you like to travel?

Love it!

48. Any regrets?

Regret is a wasted emotion.

49. Do you like rain?

Yes, in moderation.

Saturday, December 12, 2015

Almost human

I guess today was the turnaround.  I feel almost human again.  And I even went to the dining room for dinner - first time this week.

Friday, December 11, 2015

Day #5

This morning, I was still feeling lousy and getting very little good sleep.  After five days of this and heading into the weekend, I went to the walk-in clinic at my primary-care doc's office.  It's not gone into my chest, fortunately, but he says is definitely an upper respiratory infection.  He gave me some amoxicillin (along with diflucan for the expected yeast infection) and some cough syrup with codeine to help me get some sleep.  In the meantime, I'll keep hibernating in the apartment. I'd like to think I'd use the time to get some papers sorted out, etc., etc., but that probably won't happen.

In the vein that it's an ill wind that blows nobody good, I've lost ten pounds. 

Wednesday, December 09, 2015

Day #3

I still feel awful today (3rd day).  I've been staying in the apartment, just having soup for meals in my apartment.  I surely don't want to spread this around this complex.

Things are going to move quickly with the house now.  The realtor got in touch with her "guy" who does repairs and cleaning.  I talked with him today, and he's doing to finish cleaning out the house, do the minor repairs that are needed, some yard work, etc., etc.  He says he should be finished by the end of the weekend, and I guess they'll be getting the house on the market soon after that.

Tuesday, December 08, 2015


Haven't had a cold in years.
Sore throat, cough, sneeze, blow.

Monday, December 07, 2015

Yucky Monday

I woke up about 5:30 this morning, and felt awful - laryngitis, general feeling that I had a cold.  I got up, but decided not to go to swimming.  I had too much else scheduled to bag the day completely, but it was tempting.  After a cup of tea and a good shower, I felt well enough to head out for the morning stuff.

I took a load of laundry to the house to get in the machine, met the gals for coffee, picked up my framing at Michael's (looks great), back to the house to transition laundry to the dryer.  Then I had about a 90-minute meeting with the realtor, going over forms and signing things and looking at similar listings in my neighborhood, talking about price, etc., etc.  There's still a bunch to do before she actually gets the house on the market.  When I left there, I went to the financial gal's office to leave the forms I had had to get signed with a medallion notary.  Back in time to go to bridge.  The fates were kind for a change, and we had one too many players show up today.  So I bailed out of bridge, picked up my dry laundry at the house, and headed home.

It surely did feel good to just get my boot on, get a cup of coffee, and sit in my chair with my feet up.  I can feel the cold coming back on, too.  I've got a couple of things to do tomorrow morning, but I hope that nothing else comes up tomorrow.  I really was looking for some "time off".  I ate some udon soup in the room, rather than expose anybody in the dining room to this cold.

Now we'll hope to maybe sleep this off.

Sunday, December 06, 2015

Good weekend

If you didn't watch or record "100 - Sinatra"  tonight, I hope you can find it On Demand.  Such wonderful music, and with mostly the original arrangements.  Fabulous!
Margaret picked me up yesterday morning and we went to spend the weekend with Matt and Claire.  Their new house is lovely and their labradoodles are so sweet.  Claire had basketball games to coach; Matt and Margaret went to Ikea and got lamps and shelves; the dogs and I took naps.

We left early this morning to come back home.  Margaret assembled one of the lamps and then went on to the Lady Vols game (which they lost, unfortunately).  All in all, a very nice weekend.  Thanks to all!

Friday, December 04, 2015

End of a busy week

I met with the realtor this morning and liked her a lot. She seems very practical about the house and what needs to be done.  She has people she uses to do this sort of work, and doesn't seem wound up in spending lots of money redoing things in the house.  She's more about sprucing up what's there than putting the newest fad.  This is a mid1960s house, and there's not reason to be trying to make it into something else.  I'll meet with her again on Monday to sign a contract, get a list of what needs doing, and possibilities of people to do the work.  It'll feel so good to have this chore underway, if not completed yet.

I can't drive with the boot - I tried - so I wore a regular shoe, then changed when I was out moving around.  The foot surely was aching by the time I got back home, and I was glad to get the boot back on and take some pain med.

Thursday, December 03, 2015

A busy day in a busy week

I took a check to deposit in the bank.  I asked if they had a "medallion notary" - and to my surprise, they do have one.  I'd never heard of a medallion notary, but it's kind of  super-notary - requires more information that just a notarized signature.  It turns out this happens frequently with DuPont forms.  Who knew!  I didn't have all the necessary paperwork, but at least now I know this can be done at my own bank.
The orthopedist put me in a boot for the fracture in my foot (it's in the extension of the toe bone of the little toe, back into the foot itself).  I go back on the 22nd, and we'll see what happens after that.  The boot really throws my none-too-steady gait off even more.  So I'll be walking with a cane while wearing it.  I think I'm going to have to take it off in order to drive, but he said that was okay to do.
The end of an era!  After being in Chattanooga for 60 years, duPont will no longer have a presence in our Scenic City.  John was transferred to the duPont plant here in 1986, and was there until he retired at the end of 1991.  Yet another loss.

Tuesday, December 01, 2015

Ten things Tuesday

  1. We're well on our way to 40 days and 40 nights of rain. 
  2. Should I measure for an ark?
  3. Saw the rheumatologist this morning; asked about the pain in my foot.
  4. X-ray showed a fracture, right 5th metatarsal.
  5. SHIT!
  6. Appointment with orthopedist on Thursday.
  7. Appointment with financial advisor on Wednesday.
  8. Appointment with realtor at the house on Friday.
  9. Maybe things are moving, finally.
  10. Did I mention it was still raining?

Monday, November 30, 2015

UTC Lady Mocs vs #1 UConn

Well, it was a tough night - a learning experience.
UTC Lady Mocs 31, UConn 79.
Folks, the #1 team in the country is awesome (and you know how I hate to say that).

Sunday, November 29, 2015

Happy Birthday

Happy Birthday, dear one.
Never on Thanksgiving, but
We celebrate you.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

What it takes

Family!  Friends!  Love!
That's what it takes to make life worth living.
And sometimes we just throw in some good food - just for fun.

Friday, November 27, 2015

Post- and pre- Thanksgiving Friday

I had a Thanksgiving dinner with friends at home yesterday (good smoked turkey).

I drove to Margaret's midday today.  I drove the back roads, avoiding the interstate, and had good roads and no traffic at all - a very pleasant drive.  We've made dressing, and done some other prep for our family Thanksgiving tomorrow.  Jesse is here, and he grilled steaks for our dinner tonight - Yum!  She got the country ham cooked yesterday - the samples were delicious.  There should be about 15 or so here tomorrow.  I think I'll probably stay overnight tomorrow, too, and go home Sunday morning.  I don't want to drive at night - and I'll stay off the interstate then, too. 

Thursday, November 26, 2015


Holidays will be tough for us this year - we've had so much loss and sadness and upheaval.  But I have so much to be thankful for.

Sixty years of marriage to a wonderful man, my love and my best friend.
Four fantastic daughters we had together and who gave us six amazing grandchildren.
Thirty-six years with the sweet man who was married to our daughter and fathered two great sons.
Friends who always give us love and joy.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Wednesday before

The full moon is gorgeous tonight.  And it's shining in my sliding glass doors, right where I sit.

Our Lady Mocs won 55-54 over a tough Arkansas State team tonight.  I'll miss Saturday's game because I'll be at Margaret's.  And we host UConn on Monday.

Monday, November 23, 2015

Slightly different Monday

The pool was open today, but the temperature was only up to about 77 (it's usually 82).  We're just not going into the water at that temperature.  So we skipped class today, and just did coffee (LOL).
I ran some errands, and then played bridge.  I had a few good cards, but probably not enough to finish in the top bunch.  The best hand was making a bid that had been doubled by our "Mr. Know-It-All" - that was sweet.

I remembered to turn on the radio to listen to the Lady Mocs/Lady Vols game.  The Lady Mocs were behind 38-19 at the half, but finished losing by only two points, 59-57!  And this was in Knoxville! 

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Working weekend

Sue and Margaret worked so hard this weekend.  They both left today with overloaded vehicles - taking things that they wanted or to store until the grandkids could pick up things they wanted.  The house is mostly empty now (except for the dust bunnies).  The refrigerator is still there - to be picked up by Andy sometime.  Jean is coming back for the washer, dryer, a piece of porch furniture, and the stained glass.

I'm not holding my breath that the sale of the house to the couple who's been looking at it is going to work out.  It seems to have hit a stalemate at the moment.  I've gone over the scenario with Sue & Margaret and told them that I'm almost ready to just go ahead and contact a realtor and let him/her handle all this stuff.  They're okay with that - or with whatever works. We shall see.

Friday, November 20, 2015

Five Things Friday

  1. Another bright sunshiny day!
  2. Coffee with the swimmers - even without swimming.
  3. Haircut!!
  4. Refund from cancelled Road Scholar trip arrived.
  5. The Lady Mocs didn't play well tonight, but managed to pull out a 53-48 win in overtime over a scrappy Southern Mississippi team.  At least it shows up as a "W" in the stats.

Thursday, November 19, 2015


It's been a beautiful bluebird-sky kind of day today - after all the rain yesterday.  I went by the house this morning, but didn't think to check the rain gauge.  It's probably overflowing - I don't think it's been emptied more than once since I moved out.  The crepe myrtle outside my door has completely changed color - and in the sunshine, it was beautifully red/orange/yellow - so pretty against the blue sky.

I got some errands run this morning.  I've been toting lots of coats from the back closets around in my car, waiting for a good chance to get them to the homeless shelter.  Since it's supposed to be in the 20s tonight, I made a point of getting them there today.  I'm SO glad to be giving them to folks who really need them.

I must make a comment on recent political rhetoric.  It is reprehensible that anyone, least of all a candidate for President of the United States should be proposing a religious test for people applying for admission to this country or even already in this country.  "Reprehensible" not a strong enough word for the way I feel - incomprehensible, disgusting, unAmerican, obscene - I can't seem to come up with a strong enough word.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015


I have been and continue to be rendered speechless by all the wonderful help, concern, and especially love from so many people.  I am absolutely overcome, and just hope I can return this love in some measure in the years to come.

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Sunday six

  1. Sunshine and cold.
  2. The girls worked all day at the house.
  3. Stephen and I went to the Lady Mocs game.
  4. Lady Mocs 60, Butler 49.
  5. Dinner at Noodles & Pho with Carol and Stephen, Jean and Jamie.
  6. Brewster's cinnamon ice cream for dessert.

Saturday, November 14, 2015

Lots of love

Beautiful day today - clear and cold!

Jean and her friend came to get most of the remaining stuff packed up at the house to get it ready for Sue and Margaret to finish it up next weekend.  The girls have all done yeoman (or is it yeo-woman) service through all this.  I don't know what I'd have done without them.  Much love to you all!

Friday, November 13, 2015


How awful for Paris and France!  Our hearts go out to the French people.

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Quiet Thursday

It was quiet here this morning.  We had some overnight rain, but the front came through, with a little wind.  Then the sun shone brightly the rest of the day. 

I was headed out to the Silver Sneakers class this morning, when the maintenance guys showed up to install my curtain rods.  So no exercise for me today.  They got interrupted about half-way through, but came back later to finish up.  The curtains look nice and, while not very noticeable, at least soften the windows and sliding glass doors. 

The death certificates finally arrived, and I have a stack of letters ready to mail.  Most have to be sent with "return receipt requested", so I have to go to the post office. 

And UTC women's basketball starts tomorrow night! 

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

We honor all Veterans!

We honor all our veterans - especially Bobby and Jesse!
After swimming this morning, I went to Lowe's and got a shelf to go over the desk I'll be using.  It's one Margaret got, but never used (actually an old dressing table).  It'll work, but I need a shelf to put "stuff" on.  It's just a simple one board thing.  Now to get it installed.  Our pool is going to be closed all next week while the Y puts in a new hvac system in the pool area. We'll surely miss it.

That was about all the excitement for the day.

Tuesday, November 10, 2015


I went to the dentist this morning.  A 55+ year old gold onlay had started to "leak", and needed to be removed and replaced.  Fortunately it came off easily, and he was able to just fill the place, rather than do a crown.  I've finally started receiving my widow's payments from John's pension, and went to deposit those checks (already set up for direct deposit now).  Next, I got in a short Walmart run, including getting pictures taken to renew my passport.  So much for outside work for the day.

The official death certificates have finally arrived from Alberta.  And I have a new wireless printer (thanks for hooking it up, Kate).  I did some printing and copying tonight, so tomorrow, I'll start getting things ready to mail, and with any luck, get some of the paperwork finalized.

It was great to have some blue skies and sunshine here today, too.  And the temperatures have dropped to much more November-type levels.

Monday, November 09, 2015

Laying him to rest

I'm back home now, but it's been a long, busy weekend.  The girls were all supposed to be here this weekend to get most of the house cleared out.  Of course, with Bobby's death, that didn't happen quite that way.  Sue, Kate, and Jean were here Friday night, and worked like Trojans Saturday morning.  They completely filled the dumpster I'd had delivered.  Sue went on to Margaret's (an hour + west of here) Saturday night.  Kate, Jean, and I came here to shower and clean up.  Then we went to Margaret's for the visitation.  We came back here Saturday night, not the most comfortable for them, but it worked.  I got the bed - Kate and Jean slept in the recliners.  Sunday morning, we went back to the house to pick up a and organize a few things, then again, cleaned up and headed for Margaret's for the funeral.

Bobby had joined a church earlier this year, and the pastor from his church spoke.  His tribute to Bobby, Margaret and their boys was exceptional.  A small group from the church sang three old hymns a cappella to complement the service.  It was a wonderful service in this small rural town.  The auto procession to the cemetery was very long.  I don't know about customs in other places but, particularly in rural areas around here, oncoming traffic pulls over and stops for a funeral procession - and that was certainly the case yesterday. Margaret and Bobby had picked out a plot in a cemetery in an even smaller community.  And the cemetery and the plot adjoins the farm of one of Bobby's oldest friends.  Bobby had been in the Coast Guard, so there was a flag on the coffin.  Two very young Coast Guardsmen came to fold the flag and present it to Margaret.  As I said, they were very young, and not very crisp, but it was still a very moving experience.

We all went back to Margaret's after the service.  Folks from the church and Bobby's family who live in the area had brought great quantities of food.  We all ate and got in lots of visiting and reminiscing, too.  Kate, Jean, and I stayed in a nearby motel last night, then went back to Margaret's this morning for breakfast.  The boys are still there until tomorrow, but the rest of us came home near lunchtime.

It's a tough time.

Saturday, November 07, 2015

Tough day

It's been a tough day.  Sue, Kate, and Jean like Trojans, cleaning out the house.  They're not finished yet, but they filled up the dumpster this morning.  I'll have to see if they'll empty it and bring it back.  Still stuff to do.

Sue went on to Margaret's, while the rest of us came back to the apartment to shower and change clothes.  We headed over the mountain and met up with them at the funeral home. The visitation for Bobby was tonight, and the funeral will be tomorrow afternoon.  It's been tough for everybody.

We'll all be glad when this shitty year is over!

Friday, November 06, 2015


A good father, and
A good husband, and a good
Gardener. He'll be missed.

Thursday, November 05, 2015

Out of the past

     On my way to exercise class this morning, I noticed some "Welcome to the Terrace" signs on several doors, and I recognized one of the names.  It was "Bob S."  There was a guy by this name that John knew from the rowing club.  It's not an uncommon name, but I wondered if it was the same guy.
     As the fates would have it, I wound up sitting at the dinner table with this man, who turned out to be not only "Bob", but THE Bob.  He moved in only five days ago.

     As we talked, I remembered that Bob and John had worked together at duPont. John had been a kayaker, but it was beginning to take a toll on his shoulders.  He was talking to Bob, and Bob said when John retired, he should try out rowing.  This was in 1991.  John retired at the end of 1991, and the following spring, he took a class to learn how to row.  As they say, the rest is history.

     We had a nice chat and, of course, he was sorry to hear of John's death.  We'll be talking again, I'm sure.  It was a treat to find someone from the past.  But it makes me sad that there's no one who knows both of them to share the story with.

Wednesday, November 04, 2015

Wednesday bullet points

  • While fixing my breakfast, I burned the toast, and set off the smoke alarms.
  • That triggered the alarms in the whole building.
  • Nurses and aides came running.
  • All this before 6:30 a.m..  How embarrassing!
  • Always swimming and coffee.
  • Came back home to meet Vicki.
  • She hung some more pictures for me.
  • After lunch, I went to the Resident's Council meeting, where folks complained about the fire alarm. I didn't confess - too humiliating.
  • That was all the excitement for the day.

Tuesday, November 03, 2015

More moving

I was out most of the day.  Sue's husband came to the house to pick up the pieces that Alison wanted.  We had a handyman who came to help him (fortunately).  He pretty much filled up a U-Haul truck, and the guy went with him to help him unload at his mother's house (It's complicated).  They had to take the door off its hinges to get the desk out of the office, but no other problems.  I have no idea how we managed to get the desk got into the room in the first place.  Anyhow, nothing going on there until the weekend when the dumpster is delivered and the girls come.

By the time I headed home, I had already missed lunch, so I decided to do a Walmart run.  I went to the one closest to the apartment, so it took me a while to find things - and never did find a couple of things on my list. Better luck next time.

Monday, November 02, 2015

Monday, Monday

Monday was an all-day event - as usual.  But I did have the great pleasures of a haircut and a mani/pedi.

I'm struggling with learning to use and getting used to using my new laptop.  It's a Lenovo - and I like the feel and weight of the device.  But it has Windows 10, and that does have a learning curve. It has a VERY sensitive finger pad.  I got some advice from Seniors & Friends about how to make it at least less sensitive, so that's something. I've re-found a lot of my Favorites, but haven't been able to completely transfer everything from the old one to the new one. Then I'll have to figure out the new printer.

It does go on.

Sunday, November 01, 2015

Quiet Sunday

Absolutely nothing unusual going on today.  It was nice, for a change.

Saturday, October 31, 2015

Clocks and smoke alarms!

Don't forget to set your clocks back an hour tonight, and to change the batteries in your smoke alarms.

Sue and Margaret came to the house this morning to get some things ready to be picked up next week. It's amazing how much stuff is still there, but most of the big things are moving out. I've had a lot of tendinitis in my right ankle/lower leg area for a couple of months. At the house, I managed to trip (didn't fall) and turned that ankle. It's been really painful since, so I was definitely not helpful for most of the time they were here. We ate lunch, and then they headed home - just a day trip for both of them (4 hours each way for Sue!). The plan is for all the girls to be here next weekend to finish cleaning up the house.

After I got home, I took a pain pill, and spent the afternoon in the recliner, feet up, with an ice pack on the ankle. I didn’t go to dinner. I decided to just stay home and eat the Chinese I brought home last night. It’s feeling better now at bedtime, but I’ll still take it easy tomorrow.

Friday, October 30, 2015


The old landline number is finally hooked up at the apartment. And today, I disconnected the phone/internet/cable bundle from the house. Don’t worry, folks, we have graciously been given the password to our neighbor’s strong wifi signal. But the e-mail address is no more.
The potential buyer came to look through the house again today. But I haven’t heard back from him yet.
Missy was in town unexpectedly. We got together with Renna and Judy S for dinner at our favorite Chinese place. Good food and good friends - always special!
My new Epson printer came today, and I’ve taken it out of the box. I need to get a couple of things specified in the instructions, and then I’ll see if I can get it set up tomorrow. Wish me luck.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

Thursday thirteen

Thursday thirteen

1. An offer was made on the house.
2. I made a counter-offer (thanks, Beth).
3. The counter-offer was accepted (I think.
4. Meeting with them again tomorrow for another look-through.
5. Went to Silver Sneakers exercise class here. Good one.
6. The buyer of the car called - needs a death certificate.
7. Will meet him at the house Saturday.
8. Meeting Sue (and maybe Margaret) at the house Saturday.
9. Basketball tickets arrived. Yea!
10. First String Theory concert tonight.
11. Judy S. going with me.
12. Finally got the old phone number transferred to the apartment. Now I can cancel the cable/internet/phone bundle at the house.
13. Beethoven was terrific!

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

It's beginning to look a lot like home

‘Twas the 28th of October,
And all through the apartment,
Vicki’s hammer was sounding,
As pictures were hung on the walls with care.

Not all of them, but lots of the family photos are up, and a few paintings. Curtains and rods are purchased and waiting for maintenance to put the rods up for me.

It’s beginning to look a lot like home.

Monday, October 26, 2015

My momentarily quiet life

It was a very quiet weekend - really nothing going on. The rain started last night, and it's been a light rain almost constantly since then. I don't think we've has more than about an inch, though.

Mondays are an all-day thing for me now. Swimming and coffee, of course. This morning, I had my 6-month dental cleaning. Unfortunately, another one of my 50+ year old gold inlays has started to "leak". I have another appointment in a couple of weeks so the dentist can try to just remove the old inlay and replace the filling, or whether I'll need a crown. Yuck. At least it's not too bad at this point.

The cards were so-so at bridge, but it's always good to play. I haven't had a chance to see about finding folks to play bridge with here. Surely there are some who would like to do so (and aren't too bad).

Friday, October 23, 2015

Friday 5


What dehydrated foods (meant to be consumed that way) do you enjoy?
I like most dried fruits - especially cranberries
What’s your favorite dish made by stuffing one food with another?
Turkey and dressing - what else!
What’s your favorite dish made by rolling something up?
Burritos, wraps
What’s a meal you frequently consume primarily because the cleanup is quick?
Pimiento cheese and crackers, maybe an apple for lunch
What’s a food that’s made much better because of what you sprinkle on it?Definitely cinnamon toast

Thursday, October 22, 2015


Vicki came to the apartment this morning to talk about window treatments and stuff to put on the walls.  We went by the house to pick up a few more paintings, and then to Olive Garden for lunch. She'll see that it gets done.  What a gal!
I downloaded the pictures from the memory card in John's camera.  They were from the beach this year and from our trip to Canada.  I posted one of the last ones on my Facebook page.  I couldn't make it post here.  It's of Takkakaw Falls, on the BC/Alberta border - our favorite waterfall of all the wonderful ones we've seen.  Check it out there.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Things keep moving

I went to swimming and coffee this morning. Wayne, grandson Andy, and his fiancée Erica drove down this morning to pick up some of the things they wanted from the house. I went there first and emptied John's tall chest-of-drawers (one of the things they were taking). It was mostly socks, underwear, cargo shorts, bathing suits, sleep pants, etc. I bagged all that up to take to the homeless shelter. There was one drawer of "stuff" - most of which went straight into the trash. I did find a few trinkets to keep, though.
The guys also loaded up some of the art work from the house that I wanted over here, and carried that into the apartment for me. Before they headed home, I took them to lunch at a yummy local burger place near here. We ate so late with a full burger and onion rings, I skipped dinner tonight. Sweet Andy also hooked up my DVD player and Roku box - and posted a picture of us on Facebook.

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

Ten for Tuesday

This week's topic is 10 Things You Take In A Travel Tote Bag.

1. Passport
2. Wallet and Money
3. Cellphone
4. IPad
5. Charging cords
6. ATM and credit cards
7. Crostic book
8. Erasable pen
9. Knitting
10. Medications

Monday, October 19, 2015

Mondays are tough!

Mondays have gotten really tough.  Leaving home at 6:45 a.m. and not getting home until 5 p.m. makes for a VERY long day.  I'm glad I don't have to get up early tomorrow.

Sunday, October 18, 2015


A do-nothing day!
I haven’t had one of these
In many months! Sweet.

Saturday, October 17, 2015


Last weekend when Sue and Jean were here, they put a couple of birdfeeders out on the deck. I had just noticed some birds were starting to find them. Then one morning I looked out, and both feeders were completely empty. Oh, well - I figured some critter (maybe a possum or a raccoon) had found them and cleaned them out. So I filled them again.

Yesterday morning, not only was the birdseed gone, both feeders were gone. Completely gone! I looked around, but didn’t see anything. I thought maybe I wasn’t supposed to have feeders and the maintenance people had picked them up, but… I put some seed out on a plate, but then took it inside last night. I put the plate back out today, and the birds slowly started coming to that.

This evening Carol and Stephen came by and took me out to dinner (Yummy stuff at Red Ginger Bistro!). I gave them the guided tour of the apartment. When we got to the deck, I told them about the feeders. Carol looked over the railing and noticed the flat black feeder hidden under a rose bush. Stephen went down the steps and picked that one up. While looking around, he found the yellow one hidden under the deck.

I don’t know how that raccoon thinks I can refill the feeders for him if he doesn’t leave them out for me to find. What a hoot!
Matt stopped by on his way back to Atlanta. Margaret had gotten me some shelves to put beside the refrigerator. Matt brought them in, assembled them, and got them situated for me. They work great! Thanks.

Friday, October 16, 2015

Approaching "routine"?

Today may have approached a more "normal" Friday. I went to swimming and to coffee.  Then I got a few "Hixson" errands done - the post office, the bank, etc. Missy was back in town, so I had lunch with Renna and her.

I came back home, got a short nap, wrote some thank-you notes, and made a few phone calls.  I had supper in the dining room and came back to take off my shoes and get into soft clothes.

Boring I know - but what a refreshing change.  I'm finally settling down enough to pay some attention to the apartment and get an idea of what else I need to do with it.

Life goes on.

Thursday, October 15, 2015

John's car

Well, John’s car is gone. I wound up selling it for less than had been offered. When I got to the house, I got in the car to start it and check the odometer reading. I was astounded to see that there was a "bullet-hole" type break in the center of the windshield, and another crack in the lower right side. I knew it hadn't been that way last weekend. A large nut must have fallen and hit just right on it.

When the buyer got there, I told him about it, and said he might want to revise his offer. I was thinking $200 less, and when he came back he said he had checked and it was going to cost about that to replace/repair the windshield. That sounded fair to both of us, so we had a deal. Now he has the car, and I have cash in my pocket!

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

A slower day

Things sort of slowed down today.  After swimming and coffee, I went by the house and picked up the laundry I had done yesterday. I got the car washed (not that it needed it) and got a few things at Walmart. Today was maybe the second time I've eating lunch in the dining room here. And I ate with the folks who live next door to me.  She's a painter, too, and I hope will inspire me to start painting again.
But then Vicki called and invited me to have dinner with them tonight (lamb!), so off I went for another meal out.
Tomorrow will be another slower day.  I plan to get some thank-you notes written and then will go to the house to meet the folks who are going to buy John's car.
Hopefully a routine is starting up.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Gradually getting it done.

I guess I haven’t written in a couple of days. It’s been lots more of the same.

Jean left early Sunday morning. Sue came through that afternoon with a small desk she brought from Margaret’s. It fits very well in the intended space, and will do fine for my papers, etc.

Yesterday was an all-day event. I left before 7 to go to swimming, then coffee. I went by the house to put my swim stuff in the dryer, then went for an appointment with the optometrist, and then to play bridge. I managed to sneak some lunch in there somewhere. But it surely felt good to get home, have someone else cook supper, then get my shoes off and into my jammies!

Today was with appointments, too, but not as many. And the mani/pedi was definitely a pampering experience (and long overdue). The meeting with the attorney was to get all the papers filled out, notarized, and sent in to get an official Alberta death certificate.

I also did a lot of telephone work - changing addresses, user names, passwords, etc., on my credit cards. This sees like so much busy-work - and I guess it is. But it is necessary. And things are gradually getting done.

Saturday, October 10, 2015

Sunday Stealing

That Alphabet Thing Meme

Stolen from: Songs of innocence and of experience

A: Accent -- Southern

B: Breakfast --
Eggs, toast, hash browns, tomato juice, coffee
C: Chore you hate --
Housekeeping (don’t have to do that anymore)
D: Dad's name --
E: Essential everyday item --
F: Flavor ice cream --
Vanilla, butter brickle
G: Gold or silver --
H: Hometown --
I: Insomnia --
Not really - usually a pretty good sleeper
J: Job title --
K: Kids --

M: Mother's birthplace -- Bonham, TX
N: Number of significant others --
Just my family
O: Overnight hospital stays --
Too many to count
P: Phobia --
Q: Quick at --
Not much of anything any more.
R: Religious affiliation --
S: Siblings --
One (deceased)
T: Time you wake up --
Depends on the day of the week - 6-8 am
U: Unnatural hair colors --
V: Vegetable you refuse to eat --
Can’t think of one, although some not favorites
W: Worst habit --
Overeating, laziness
X: X-rays --
Too many to count
Y: Yummy --
Unfortunately I love most foods
Z: Zodiac sign --

Friday, October 09, 2015

Another day

Today was another productive day - if not exactly what we had in mind. Cars always have other ideas

I got to swimming and met up with Jean at Panera. Jean headed to WalMart and other stores. As I left, the “check engine” light came on in my car again, so I headed right over to Firestone. They took it in for diagnostics, and I went around the corner for a haircut. When Jean finished with the stores, she picked me up and we went to the apartment. We got some work done, had lunch, and were here when the maintenance guys came to hang the heavy mirrors and reverse the doors on the refrigerator.

Then we headed for the house to wait for my car and for Sue. The car was ready about 5 - about $550 in various engine and tire problems. Sue came shortly. We went and picked up some barbecue and took it to the apartment to eat. I gave Sue a tour of the building and we talked for a while. We called it a night about 9.

Thursday, October 08, 2015

More moving stuff

Smaller things are slowly getting moved from the house to the apartment.  Jean has been here, sleeping at the house, but going back and forth with "stuff" and helping get it organized once it gets here.  She's done some shopping and just generally done what needs doing.
Our old friend, Beth and her daughter Lisa, were in town for a couple of days.  Beth is a realtor and she's helping me with advice on what needs to be done to the house to help it sell and helping me find a realtor here.  I know I'll really depend on her opinions dealing with that. She's definitely a special lady!  Plus they took us out to dinner two nights!
I haven't had a chance to do any of the activities here at the Terrace or to meet too many of the other residents, but that will come as I get more settled in.  I did get to swimming yesterday and am planning to go tomorrow - so that feels good, too.
And then the battery died in my car this afternoon and I had to call AAA to come get the car started and install a new battery.  @#$$%%$###

Tuesday, October 06, 2015

Gradually coming together

I went to breakfast in the dining room this morning, but think I'll probably be eating breakfast "at home" most of the time. I'd rather eat breakfast in my pjs than have to get dressed to go to the dining room. And I should be having my paper delivered to my door - it was supposed to be today, but wasn't. I hope it will be there tomorrow.

I had a good night. The only problem was the a/c leaked, and one corner of the living room and adjoining bedroom have wet carpet. The maintenance guys came this morning and have worked on it, plus they‘ve been back twice to check on it. They have fans blowing on the areas to help them dry quicker. From what they said, this is not uncommon when an apartment that's been vacant for a month or so is newly occupied.

I like the way we decided to arrange the rooms. And my enormous shower worked beautifully this morning. I've met a few folks, and I know I'll be meeting more. I haven't had a chance yet to go to any of the activities - just meals.

Jean is here to help. She’s staying at the house, but spending most of the day with me. We brought a load back from the house today, including a lot of stuff from the refrigerator. So now I do have food for breakfasts. We finished the day with a trip to Walmart for a new phone (with two handsets), an inflatable mattress (for the house for a while, and then here for a guest), a toaster, paper towel holder, and other small stuff like that.

It’s gradually coming together.

Monday, October 05, 2015

Well, I'm in....

Well, I'm here! Thanks to Margaret, the staff here, the movers (the Good Guys), and Comcast. Everybody came a little earlier than scheduled, and finished without incident. There are still a couple of boxes to unpack and stuff at the house to pack up and bring. But I'm in and will be sleeping here tonight!

I got an early dinner and hurried to the apartment to get my shoes off and into soft clothes. And now I’m in my chair, watching TV, and shoeless. FJ&D sent sent me some lovely flowers. And I’ve been on the phone a lot, talking to Sue, Robin, and Beth.

Tomorrow, Jean is coming, and she'll help me get more smaller, loose things moved from the house. And she'll help me decide what to put on the walls. Beth is coming later in the week to give me advice about what to do with the house.

Sunday, October 04, 2015


Yesterday, Margaret (mostly) with a little help from me got things almost completely ready for the movers. I'm pretty much with my "must-have" stuff in three rooms, and almost everything to be moved has been gathered into clumps. The smaller stuff that I wind up taking will go in bits and pieces. Someone came to look at John's car, and is supposed to get back to me in a day or two. Then we took a load over to the apartment. I'll get my last few necessaries ready tomorrow, so they can go over with me on Monday. I got a few more things ready today. And tomorrow it happens.

Saturday, October 03, 2015

Sunday Stealing

Q & A Meme

Stolen from: My Random Randomness

1. What would you pick as a major, if you could go back to college and do it again?

Probably art - like I did when I did go back to college.

2. Who is the one celebrity with whom you would most like to have an indepth conversation?
President Obama

3. If you could make a living doing ANYthing, what would that be?
Being kept by a very rich, generous benefactor.
4. What’s your all-time very favorite dessert?
I really do like vanilla ice cream, or vanilla with caramel and sea salt.
5. How many pairs of jeans do you own?
Three, I think
6. What is your favorite flower, and why?
I don’t know that I have a favorite - they’re all lovely
7. What book has most changed your life?

I can’t think of one right now
8. What is your least favorite vegetable? Is there any way you can be persuaded to eat it?
I like almost all vegetables, some better than others.
9. If you could take a nonstop first class flight to any destination, where would you pick to land?
How about an around-the-world trip, with stops in many places along the way.10. If your 15 minutes of fame included a stint on
American Idol, what song would be your trademark solo?
It would be humming something - definitely not singing.11. If you could pick one former friend (who has remained elusive in this wild Facebook world) to reunite with, who would you unearth?
Margaret R.
12. You have been awarded the time off from work and an all-expenses paid week anywhere in the United States. The catch is that it must be somewhere you have not been before. Where do you choose to visit?
There are not many places in the US that I haven’t seen - lucky me! Maybe the south rim of the Grand Canyon.
13. Name three of your guilty pleasures.
I never feel guilty. If I enjoy it, I don’t feel guilty about it.
14. The best kind of cookie is:
I love Scotch shortbread and chocolate chip cookies.
15. What do you value most in other people?
Honesty, sense of humor, and a willingness to accept all people at face value.
16. Have you ever looked back at your life and realized that something you thought was a bad thing was actually a blessing in disguise?
Maybe once or twice.
17. What is the most beautiful place you’ve ever visited?
Oh, there are SO many. The most moving is Canyon de Chelly.
18. Are you more of a thinker or a feeler?
Some of each.
19. Name three things you are thankful for right now.
My family, my friends, 60 years with John.
20. Have you ever participated in a three-legged race?
I don’t think so
21. When you are at an event that plays the National Anthem, do you place your hand over your heart?
Of course, and I sing along, too.

Friday, October 02, 2015

So many changes!

So many changes!

I took another load of stuff to the apartment this morning.

On the way, I went by Tina’s. She spent the last two nights here, after her belongings had been loaded on the moving truck. She’s moving to a small town in upstate New York. This morning was my last time to hug her before she left. This was a relatively short interlude in her life, and she’s moving on. Damn! As much as I understand, I hate to have her gone.

Missy texted this afternoon. Her mother passed away today, surrounded by her loving family. And I do understand how that happens - at least, now I do.

So any changes!

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Did you see?

Did you watch PBS tonight?  The program, E. O. Wilson: Of Ants and Men, was a PBS special tonight.  It's fabulous!  I hope you can find it on your PBS station, or watch it online.

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Busy Tuesday

Another busy day - at least this morning. I went to the courthouse again this morning - this time to transfer John's car title. Turns out I don't need to do that to sell the car, since I'm executor. But I did get lots of other good information.

Then I took a couple of bags of stuffed animals to the fire department (to give to kids to comfort them after fires, wrecks, etc.). I had a big basket of mostly small penguins and flamingos that have "flocked" here over the years.

Then I went to the credit union (our bank) to set up an estate account (as advised by the lawyer for the probate). That turned out to be about an hour's worth of looking things up, filling out forms, signing stuff, with eventual success. AND again, getting lots of other valuable information re what to do with renaming and changing the address on the existing account. And I even got in a short trip to Walmart.

And I finished up by getting some clothes out of the closet ready for transport.

Monday, September 28, 2015

Monday haiku

So much to be done.
Moving, getting affairs in
Order. Soon calmer.

I hope.

Saturday, September 26, 2015

Moving stuff

I made the first trip to take stuff to the new apartment this morning. I picked up Tina to show her the place (and to let her help me carry the few things). It feels more like mine now - with familiar things there. They’ve put in a new refrigerator (yea!), but maintenance still needs to move the hinges so it opens the right way.

It’s rained off and on all day, and I got through a few more cabinets.

Friday, September 25, 2015

And more

Another busy day today. The rain made driving and walking an interesting exercise, but the time in the courthouse was short and uneventful. I was back home about 9:30. I ran some errands, even including Walmart. I picked up some things I need for the new place - a lockbox for my medications (required), some dividers for the kitchen drawers, shower curtains (the huge shower will take two), and that always necessary item - toilet paper. All this remains in the trunk of the car. I'm planning to drive over tomorrow and take a load. That will certainly give me a sense of possession.

I’ve checked with the insurance company about renter’s insurance and the insurance on the house for the time after I move out and the time it’s sold. And, I've booked the movers and signed up for cable/internet/phone with Comcast.

Now, I'm getting really eager to get moved in.

Thursday, September 24, 2015

Things are moving quickly

I got all my chores done this busy day. I went to the rheumatologist for blood work (to check on the changed medication) and to get my flu shot. Then I met with the financial planner. She's great, and I'm sure we're going to get along fine. She went through the papers like a house afire (and really appreciated the work done by Margaret and Alison). She’s going to get things lined up for me. I'll go back in a couple of weeks to finish signing and mailing in appropriate papers. Then we'll talk about how I want things structured, monthly income, etc.

This afternoon I met with a Comcast rep to find out what my options are for cable/internet and possibly land-line phone at the new place.

Margaret called and she’s going to come spend the day Sunday to get more things done to help me move - getting furniture ready, etc. I’ll get on the phone tomorrow and set up a date for the move, for hooking up cable and internet, etc.

I had dinner at a local eatery with Missy and Renna. Missy's mom has been in and out of the hospital since a broken hip last November, most recently with pneumonia. Today, she's being sent home with hospice care. So Missy needs some TLC, and we'll see what we can do to help.
Our weather has been gorgeous, and is definitely turning into autumn. Leaves are starting to fall, although our peak color isn't usually until midOctober.

Wednesday, September 23, 2015

The week continues...

I've gotten more done this busy week - mainly today, I got a much-needed haircut!

My art teacher came by and picked up a lot of art supplies that I know I won't be using any more, and about half of my art books for her library. She's going to mention the others to some in her class. Any books that are left will be going to the library book sale.

I've talked to two moving companies (Two Men & a Truck and another small local one) to get estimates. Each says they don't need to come by - just took my info about furniture I'm taking and quoted me an hourly rate. Both deliver to The Terrace and just need a few days' notice to set up a date. So now I have to decide on a date.

And I talked to the contact guy for Comcast who was recommended by The Terrace. I'm meeting with him tomorrow to check on the package I might want. I'll have to use them for cable and internet - we'll see how the phone works out.

After I meet tomorrow morning with the financial advisor and Friday with the attorney, I'll consult with the daughters and decide on a date to physically move. Whew!

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

Well, I did it!

Well, I paid money today and got keys - so I now have an apartment!

They were laying the new carpet this morning when we were there. Jean and I pointed out a few other things for the maintenance guys to check. I guess I'll start moving in some small things in another day or so - just so I can really feel some "ownership". Jean left this afternoon, and so I'm here by myself now. They've all assured me that somebody will come back quickly if I need it, but I'm pretty sure I'll be okay. There's still SO much to do. I haven't set up a definite moving date, but will try to figure that out soon. I think the girls have agreed on the first week in November to come here to get things they want out of the house.

All scary, major things going on.

Monday, September 21, 2015


Things have been relatively quiet today. I had my regularly scheduled eye appointment - all okay there. Jean and I went to visit Vicki, and I took her some lamb out of my freezer. I know I won't be using it now, and they love it. Plus I know they'll invite me to dinner sometimes when she cooks it.

Tomorrow, Jean will go with me when I go to The Terrace to sign papers and pay the first month's rent. Then I can start taking things over and set up an actual moving date.

Sunday, September 20, 2015


Jean and I have been through a lot of stuff, packed up some stuff that needs to be moved first, and set aside a lot that doesn't. There’s lots of stuff to give away. We’ve thrown away lots of stuff. Lots of art stuff will be going away on Wednesday.

I see the financial advisor on Thursday morning, and go to court with the lawyer on Friday morning. I sign papers and pay rent on Tuesday morning, so can start moving things then. After that we will talk about when to move ME.

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Saturday haiku

Cleaning out old stuff.
Downsizing is always hard,
But we make progress.

Friday, September 18, 2015

Learning curve

So now, I'm not only going to have to learn to live a new life, in a new place, I have a new laptop, with Windows 10.  OMG!!!  At least the laptop isn't quite so life-changing.
Jean and I have gone through an amazing amount of stuff today.  We've been through yarn stuff, painting stuff, shelves and the desk around the desk-top computer, etc.  There are piles everywhere, but there IS a modicum of organization involved. And it looks like we'll be able to start moving some stuff into the apartment toward the latter part of next week.